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Month: June 2017

Morphing like a Caterpillar

Morphing like a Caterpillar

Angels and Butterflies

Demons take wing

All can be healed if you know where to believe.

Going inward or onward each has its place,

When it is time to let go, we begin to expand beyond this time and space

Beyond the belief and into the story you go,

finding out what  isn’t and is all about the show.

You can now morph you and your ideas on what to be,

now you get to fully step in to the greatest version of what you would like to see.



My Trip to Peru was amazing, and I learned so many things, most of the learning was about me, how I interpret the world around me and how each person I interact with plays a role in my life. I know through the mirror work, that people have their own path that they are on, as we cross section we get to learn and work at the things that come up in us all. I got to delve into a deeper level of that.

I learned that I needed to slow down, just to hear what the people were saying, mostly because they speak another language (that may I admit I did not practice enough,) yet it was perfect because I got to stop, listen to what their body, and gestures were trying to say to me. I got around in Peru, because of the ability to interact without language.  I had to let go of concepts about language, and how we communicate to be able to grasp and connect to the message.

I also learned about how I have attachment to the idea that this is the only way we communicate, I also learned about attachment to people, things and stories, do not serve us or more importantly myself.

My main reason for going to Peru, was to go into a retreat, where I got to look at myself on a deeper level. One of the most amazing pieces of the retreat was a book that came across my Path.

Story time again.

In the retreat center there were thousands of butterflies, red and black, hues of blue and silver, orange and yellow. There were huge morphos everywhere, which is the picture shown in this post. They were amazing and everywhere, yet they never touched you or came in close proximity.

One day as I was on my way to the showers, there was a beautiful Blue butterfly that flew up to my left shoulder lightly kissed it and landed on the rock wall next to me, where I stopped just to look at it. It sat quietly and then fluttered off.  I thought it was interesting because,  I allowed me to see it, fully expanded In front of me. That is the slowing down part.

As I entered the shower area, there was a book, which had not been there the prior day.  The author, stood out first, it said “Julia Butterfly Hill” and the name of the book was “Luna. ” Its about a woman who sat in a tree called Luna to keep the tree from being clear cut. I decide I needed to read the book, the butterfly, my name and well my passion of saving the earth were all embedded in the theme to learn more.

The book was amazing; I recommend you read it, just to get a sense of the destruction of the planet. However; my point is not about how we can be better stewards to the planet, the book sends the point home.

My point is the interpretation in one of the chapters in the book.

Julia talked about how;

A caterpillar has to learn to become the butterfly, by letting go of attachment.  First it must let go of the idea that it is just a caterpillar, it is not beautiful, eating leaves and moving about the forest in the state of grub. It has to let go to morph into the next part of its journey.  In the chrysalis, it is safe, it is changing, yet it is secure and comfortable all wound up, in its cocoon. To merge into its full beauty it must also let go of that safe attachment, of comfort and ease. Letting go of this allows for it to move out of the chrysalis transforming, into the beautiful butterfly.  If it had stayed in its grub state it would have held onto the story that this is how life is and would have never been able to move into transformation. It had to let go to move into that place of change long enough to become the fluttering butterfly. Showing its full beauty and grace, pollinating flowers and sending joy to anyone who sees it.

Holding on to attached ideas and stories, restrict growth. It feels safe, yet the joy inside is not seen on the outside. We miss interpret things and ideas, because we look to the same story vs. stop and listen as the idea’s splay themselves out in front of us. Had I just stuck to the word of the people of Peru I would have been lost, instead I looked at the gestures and saw the person as they spoke and I had an amazing time.

I heard the message of the butterfly loud and clear, I got a real clarity on what I wanted in my life and how I needed to let go of the attachment to any idea of what it should look like.  Doors keep opening for me because I am peeling those layers of me off, layers of belief and attachment.

How do you stay in your caterpillar state, feeling like a grub, making no sense of your world.

Where do you hold on so tightly that you cannot transform.

How can you let go and grow?





Breaking the “BAD”

Breaking the “BAD”

You are your incredible Brain

Habits are formed through behavioral patterns, and are imprinted on our neural pathways. Neural pathways are the superhighways that nerve cells utilize to transmit messages. When you  continually  travel over these pathways, the pathway becomes a practice of normalcy. Choices over and over  forms a brain pathway.  Forming habits and learning to break out of them is a science all on its own; and the pathways can be over ridden. The brain is always changing and you can start new pathways and create new habits. That’s called the neuroplasticity of the brain.

Yay for the brain!

Habits can keep us tied to choices that become bad because they do not serve us, they intrude in our life.  Eating poorly, staying up late, sleeping little, work stress become attachments in everyday practices. Even mental self talk patterns are all ways that people stay in behaviors that keep them unhealthy or unhappy. Yet we are unable to break from them, using shifting behaviors.


People believe that breaking habits is the ability to utilize Willpower; and there are many theories’ about willpower and how trying to utilize it, we become depleted easily, and it thus it takes the power away.  It’s a theory. I do believe that if we become deterred or find ourselves off track we become depleted quickly, because we think we have no willpower.

Willpower is not about the simple breaking the “BAD” habit; it is about looking deeply at the intention of the habit.  Putting your will into understanding why, and then utilizing an alternate healthy habit; which in exchange give you more power.

Taking some time and slowing down, enables you to focus on the habit you want to break.  Becoming more intentional, forms change with the patterns in the brain. Willpower is focus on the function of the habit, how it was created. Each time we overcome the obstacle,” the power” in “the will” develops into an everyday practice.  Becoming more in tune with our self and we are able overcome more of the habitual so called “Bad Habits.”

It’s now time to work on your attachments, to the ideas and ideals that keep you suspended in your unhealthy habits.

I have worked with many clients, when they first start the process of change, they recoil because they have to change something that seems so important in their life, yet at a closer look they really are just in a place of attachment to the idea of what that particular habit was doing to serve them.  The sooner they move past it the easier the change happens.

Making choices everyday for the health of our self is a task that gets brushed aside very easily. We tend to commit to family responsibilities, work and or community obligations, which all are a great distraction to self health. They also become habitual ideals; yes Ideals and  beliefs of “ that this is how it’s supposed to be. “

After a hard long day at work, the first thing we do when we get home is…….?????? What about morning time wake up, or lunch time rush and get back to work. Do you think you have room to stop slow down and change one thing to make it easier and more fluid, enriching just that moment?

Look at the patterns you stay in, look at the ways you feel unhealthy, what ways do you handle emotions. What ways do you work or not work your body?  How do you make choices in food?

You know the stomach is the first Brain.

What are the beliefs that keep you in a pattern of this is what I do, yet know it is not healthy for you or your body.

Is life just a little draining and change seems that much harder? Do know that change uses sometimes a little or less energy exchange than you are already putting out there?

Does it seem hard to concentrate on breaking a habit, yet maybe that habit is making it that much harder for you to concentrate?

You can create a life easier, just by stepping up and acknowledging the truth of attachment.

How much time do you spend in front of the TV, Social Media, disconnected and connected through your phone? 10 minutes of time can change how your health feels.

How much time on this earth are you spending intentionally?

How much time would you spend to find Joy?

There are ways to become better at your thinking, your attitude and your intention toward life.

How much is it worth your time and effort?

Remember the Brain can change and so can you.

If you want too.

Dream Joy

Dream Joy

Oh the stories I have told, the many created tales that I built in my head about relationships. The idea on how they are going they fold out, and the ways I would like them too.  Working the many dramatized stories until its end or thus far. Filling the story of what any relationship is supposed to look like, and the ways I have learned to use my so called logical thinking around it.

Past history is a good indicator of what you or I are trying to create in our life. There are many relationships that are wonderful and others that end badly, they all tell a story. In some way shape and form we choose it, we choose that it would look “just like this” and have attachments to them. The story morph’s and changes as each person has their experience of what the relationship is.  Then we get to see the bigger picture of who they are, yet we don’t see who we are in them.

Think of a time or place where you had high hopes, a completely passionate and amazing ideas about a relationship. Did you see what you were getting into as the beginning of a great dream come true?  Did you build a story that completed the start of your so called dream?  Believing and creating grand visions,  and the emotions start to stimulate your endorphins and you become high. Then there is the crash, it is hard into the reality built around it, we are left standing in a stir of WTF.

Relationships are in every interaction with people. Like starting a new job and learning about the work relationships you build on and the stories of others begin to unfold around you. Their experiences of life interlude into your work experiences, and muddle the dream e wonderful  work experience. The boss seemed perfect at first and then the story dashes us with “ they are not authentic, too hard, not easy to be around.”  Scenarios in our head start with the amazement of the story, then we become caught in the stir of others issues.  How about that co-worker who chooses to unravel his or her life in your lap, or who even just annoys you by their bad habits?

What about a friend who was so awesome, you hung out every day, then it goes sour, or they move on, or you move on.

Then there are those intimate relationships that conjure up so many emotions, stirring old patterns, familial problems or non-problems.

These are all about the relationships we create internally and it plays out in our everyday world.  These are the gifts and lessons that we morph around, sometime becoming reactive, taking things personal or projecting our problems and beliefs on others.

The gift of each relationship is the growth that we can obtain through it. However; relationships are work, sometimes a little more than we have or are ready for.  It is something we can choose to reflect on and work on.

Take a look at few of my last blog post, it’s all about the experiences that I have expressed past stories that,  created my drama story. Bad relationships, heart ache and I at times let it be a complete “Kill joy”

Then I changed it.

I made a cognitive decision to go into the drama. I getting out of the story mulching into the emotions, and attachments I had of it. I also honored it and looked at the gift and begin to do the work around it.

Yes “work “around it. I pick up tools, and I move it. I work on my internal processes, take into account any and all projections about others and look closely at me. I look at how I can navigate it, so that I may stay in joy. I make hard decisions that allow me to create “My Dream” of how I would like to see my world.  I have been so successful at building the sad stories, now I am practicing the art of building positive interactions. I do this by living authentically close to my own heart. The only way that I know that my heart is clear, is because I dig deeply into my own attachments about people, experiences and past behaviors.

I can give you one tool today that can assist you into allowing you to step into that heart space. If you want the tool all you have to do is reach out via email and pick it up. You can learn to transform your stories into great manifestations of your Dreams, into Joy. Take the first step, pick up the tool and use it, peel away the layers of relationship, interaction and experiences. You choose if you want to move forward with right relationship with self.  Begin that journey and manifests the dreams that you have stored in your,” I wish I could place.”

Become your Dream Joy