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Month: February 2017

Who are you?

Who are you?


This question is a universal question, how does the “I “fit in this world and what is deeper meaning. Each of us strive to find that deeper who we are but get lost in all the jargon of the world and becomes a reflection in how the “I” believes its worth in self care. If you feel you have no purpose, you can see it in the choices of food, and demonstrate it through your actions or non-action, in your body, and thoughts. Finding joy in life is essentially the key to finding our purpose. I see many people looking outside of themselves to obtain the joy they are seeking. Cravings for joy come out in the food we eat, sexual pleasures, or even adrenaline rush. These are all triggers that can bring momentary gratification, but the life long struggle to obtain peace and joy, becomes the endless continuum of craving that one thing that will make us feel good.

So is Joy bad, is Joy good, if I told you it’s a state of being, would you understand that if you found that sense of joy in the now it would be easier to obtain. Because there is no delusion in the acquisition of it we are just in it. In other words, that one piece of chocolate may not be bad for us, or that one sexual experience may bring momentary pleasure, or even that high from the adrenaline rush is just temporary. They are good, they are not states of Joy. If we continue to eat more chocolate, have sex to the point of addiction or end up injured because the adrenaline was pushed to that point it, we continue to seek joy gratification and the journey becomes bad or unhealthy, and unattainable.


Joy a state of being and is in that moment, staying in that moment can be hard, especially if we are not finding our true path. We seek outside sourcing to achieve it yet always find we end up feeling shorted.

The state of being is within all of us, finding “the disconnect” and rewiring to connect is a process of peeling away the many layers of beliefs. The “who we are” comes out in our stories, yet the belief is built around a circumstances, that brought us through the story to where we are now. Perspective on the many levels of the stories unwind the history belief and change the idea’s on who we can and want to be.

I wanted to be a teacher; as a child that was my stern answer. As a growing adult I became a mom, a house cleaner for a career. As my story began to unwind in me, I used to berate myself because I did not meet that expectation. I made bad choices, I beat myself up verbally, physically and sadly I was breaking my own spirit. Unhealthy and ready to change, a great mentor came into my world to assist me into a better place. Allowing me to grow using my past history as a” had to happen plan” so that I could use the skills I learned from being the mom and house keeper. Altering my perspective; I was able to begin to rewrite that story. I could also see that the story had more value than a childish idea, I saw my new story as I became a soccer coach, swim coach, and aerobics/ski/swim instructor, a supervisor and a mentor. These modalities allowed me to become a teacher, the little girls dream. I became healthy in my soul, I started my journey toward a happiness within myself I had never felt before, I was on my path.

I was not only being taught but I was become the teacher. The ability to see where my path was at that look out point of perspective. It allowed me to go into the flow of “who I am”. A coach: a mentor; a muse; an inspiration to be fully me and teach someone to be fully them.

This is was a just a brief story of the transformation I have had on my journey to my path, to who I believe I am. It was the building block to finding the internal Joy that I found in me and that I now assist others to find in themselves.
Is it your time to find your joy, your passion for life? Ask yourself who are you, what do you mean to the world?

Believing in the pieces within, letting go of the ideals of others.

Believing in the pieces within, letting go of the ideals of others.

We live our lives thinking believing in ideals that are supposed to match societies truth about what is right and wrong, about you. What looks good, what is moral or ethical, media sells to us the next up a coming thing, we all need to have. Sending messages of what it feels like to have, be or look like.  How we should dress and feel about life, is played out in dramas, television, movies and even real life, that hands us these cards of belief.  We have a choice; though, if we choose to pick it up and utilize the information as our truth, or we can disseminate the information, discern the real message according to our own self belief and move forward with a greater understanding of ourselves.

When we are born we have no self identity,  we grow and go through many interpretations of others. We also have a soul calling that is deep within us, that piece of us within, that says no I am not that. However; with the many messages our own existence is always called into question, and we can get stuck in the mundane of the world. Get up, go to work, eat lunch, go home eat dinner, go to bed get up. We look for media to fill our lives with life, food, exercise, alcohol and various other outlets.  We learn behaviors that meet the social norms, losing sight of what the true light from within looks like. Becoming the mold for what our parents, teachers, religious or political leaders, want us to believe about ourselves. Question is, are they sending messages that are in the best interest for you?  Are they an agenda, to set up an idea you need to buy, be and follow. Does it align with what you believe your existence in this world is?

What about our existence what does it all mean, according to Adi Da Samraj an American spiritual teacher, writer and artist, “The ultimate import of our human birth is to Realize the Truth of existence.”


The more we look at the path that is dictated to us through media, we transform ourselves into ideals that do not match our own thoughts. We become not us, we become the ideals of others. We tend to do this and align with these norms, so that we may “fit in”. It is a funny term, “Fitting in society only hurts when you don’t.”.

What if you decided that you wanted to be authentic, original, your creative self? Would that feel easy, or would that be harder than “fitting in”? In this moment of action, is when we become more aware of who we are and what our path is. Being authentic is scary, judgment becomes the card that you are dealt, yet standing on your own beliefs is the power behind your true identity.

Take today and look at the messages you receive in the daily messages, look at the past messages your received when you wanted to step into you, and were rejected by judgment. Look at the ideals that you place your beliefs in, yet do not practice.

Then ask yourself how you can truly realize the truth of your existence if you are following the guidance of sources that have an agenda. How can you today step into fully who you are? What are the pieces of you that have stayed through all the messages and have said this is you?